Why women have affairs?
Chat about a loaded theme that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on ever since ancient times. Affairs can be fraught with troubles, cause sorrow, and other problems. Plus you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness issue, finances, age dissimilarity, faith upbringing, remorse, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I should classify an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating married men.
Why do married people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are people seeking affairs. I am sure generally though it is just the human state, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and fun, and sex makes us escape the world for a brief period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone can turn the craving on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another individual, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos the world has erected against married dating. For many people the yearnings will beat their fears and make them risk the fury of not only their family, but the public also. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is awfully good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not injure your relatives or anybody else? You will need to lessen the threat you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the major cluster, gigantic actually. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they are happy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to consider. Your savings are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them completing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair at times solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage intact.
Ignoring, sadly this is a common cause I fear. One or the other, frequently the husband is sexually neglecting his wife for a large humber of reasons. As a male I truly appreciate you guys neglecting your ladies and making them obtainable to us men of romance, making them “hot milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, maybe compassion is disappeared, could be it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Maybe we have just grown separately, our relulas concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is opposite of what you want. Could be I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for financial gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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